How to Survive the Date what Went Nowhere

We all wish our first dates could be like the kind in dreams - romantic, personal, great loving interactions, flirtations, feelings of confidence and appreciation. But, sometimes two people just don't click, and that's fine - that's what dating is all about.

Consider preparing yourself for the dates that don't work out so well. It saves a little bit of awkwardness if you are ready to end a date gracefully when the two of you just didn't hit it off, or if it was really a "bad date." One thing to keep in mind is that you might have thought the date went very poorly, but your companion may have thought it went well.

First of all, be polite. A mismatched date isn't anyone's fault. It can be an awkward situation, but with a little finesse, sensitivity and thoughtfulness, it can be handled. If the date is not going well from the beginning, just do your best to be pleasant and know that you do not have to see this person again if that is your choice. Don't feel the need to prolong the date, but don't lie and say you don't feel well unless you are feeling pressured or uncomfortable and need to make a getaway of sorts.

At the end of the date, it is really best to tell the person that you enjoyed their company and you really appreciate the movie/dinner/concert, but that you really didn't feel enough of a connection to see each other again. You might feel like you don't want to be so direct, but it really is the most honest and respectful thing to do. You don't need to feel compelled to discuss specific reasons why you don't want to see this person again. Don't be hurtful or vocal about what you think the other person's flaws are.

If you are on the receiving end of this discussion; you thought the date went well and she didn't, don't be too upset by that fact. Her opinion or feelings are not a direct reflection on you as a person. And, wouldn't you rather know about this now instead of in a few weeks after you've grown comfortable and a little attached to the relationship.

In addition, your date could bring up some ideas of why she doesn't necessarily want a second date, and these thoughts could help you see some things in yourself that you would like to change. Keep in mind that she could also make up excuses for not wanting to continue to date. She could be trying to spare your feelings, so thank her for the lovely evening, and walk away with your head held high.

Unsuccessful first dates are simply times when two people don't feel a connection. Again, this is what dating is all about; meeting people and seeing what you like, and how they fit with you. As you experience different kinds of dates, you will become more skilled at gently ending good and bad dates. Don't count on one special single date to be the one; be courageous, trusting and step forward and try another first date with someone else.